Thanks for posting photos. Congrads on getting one out. I wouldn't worry too much about damaging the mantle. As long as the clam is healthy and the damage is minimal it should recover.
That being said... it looks like your clam is not growing (not healthy). I don't see a white band of new shell growth along the outer edge of the shell and the mantle is not fully extended (aiptasia will only impact mantle extension right around them). Lack of growth is usually a sign of either water parameters being off (Ca, alk, or Mg) or insufficient lighting (or both). During this time the clam will continue to add layers to the shell but the layers do not extend past the previous layers. Resulting in the ridges and groves at the edge of the shell. This is where i believe your aiptasia have taken hold.
The good news is that if you correct the issue(s) then, if strong enough, the clam will begin to grow normally again. I'm not suggesting the current condition of the clam is your fault as it may be a result from the previous owners care (or lack thereof). But I wanted to let you know so you can provide the correct environment and get this clam happy again!
HTH,
Tom